Monthly Archives: December 2016

Preparing to Sell Your Home as an LGBT Couple

Selling your home is a lot of work, especially if you’re still living in the property while it’s being shown to potential buyers. If this goes on for more than a few weeks, it’s going to get stressful. You have to make sure your house is always ready to be shown to clients. There are times you may only have half an hour’s notice that a buyer wants to see the house. If you can’t make everything organized and spotless within a few minutes, the potential buyer may see have to walk through a messy house. That can be a major turn-off, even though your clutter really has nothing to do with the home itself.

preparing-to-sell-your-home-as-a-lgbt-coupleOf course, this is true with anyone’s house, regardless of their sexual orientation. Real estate agents will help any individual or couple go through their home and prepare it to make that “wow!” impression that you need to secure a sale. One thing agents look at when helping you stage your home is personal effects. Everyone naturally fills their homes with these types of items, but there are some that your agent may suggest you put away. As an LGBT couple, this list may be a little more extensive. Even a gay or lesbian real estate agent may make these suggestions.

This isn’t anything discriminatory, although discrimination does play a part in the decision. It all boils down to how as people we have certain beliefs or like certain things and may instinctively dislike certain things. For example, a Realtor may suggest that a couple remove anything that indicates their religious or political preferences. Seeing something like that could make the buyer pass, even if they don’t consciously think about it.

The same is true for the little things such as pennants for your favorite sports teams or your magazines on your table. The idea is to make the buyer feel at home, not show off your personality or likes.

What does this mean to an LGBT couple? It means that you shouldn’t get offended when your real estate agent suggests putting away your wedding photos or other pictures of the two of you. You also should anticipate taking down your rainbow flag and other pride items. Again, this isn’t to hide who you are necessarily. Instead, it’s to give the buyer the feeling of a blank slate and to ensure that you aren’t discriminated against, even if it’s unconscious discrimination.

Moving in with your Same-Sex Partner

Moving in with your same-sex partner after purchasing your first home is exciting. You’ve worked with a gay or lesbian real estate agent to find the perfect place to live, and now you’re ready to build your lives together in a house you own. If you haven’t lived together, though, you may be in for a few surprises. Of course, straight couples go through this, too, but with a same-sex partner, there are a few different and sometimes humorous twists to the adjustment period.

You’ll Create a Third Closet

moving-in-with-your-same-sex-partnerCouples often have a “his” and “his” or “hers” and “hers” closet arrangement, but if you’re a same-sex couple and near the same size, you may find that you need an “ours” closet. You’ll end up buying clothing that you both wear. This may be shoes, t-shirts, jackets, socks, and even pants! Unless the two of you have very different fashion senses, expect to find most of your clothing falls into the “ours” category. Just think of it as gaining a spouse and a whole wardrobe!

No Need to Put Down the Seat

Living with your female partner means you never have to worry about the toilet seat being left up (unless you have male friends over, of course). Men don’t have to worry about putting it down. Yes, this is a stereotypical situation, but it’s also based on some truth.

You Need More Space for Hair Care Products

Another stereotype, of course, but it can be true—for gay men as well as women. If you both use different brands of shampoo, conditioner, and other hair care products, you may find that your shower simply can’t hold them all.

You Have Double the Stuff

When opposite-sex couples move in together, they may have some overlapping movies and cooking items, but when same-sex couples with similar tastes buy a house together, you may find that you have a lot of duplicate items. For example, men who love working out may both own similar sets of weights or other exercise equipment. You might have to both give up some of your possessions if you own things you don’t really need two of. Just try to make it an equitable downsizing – you shouldn’t give up all of your stuff, and neither should your partner.

Remember You Love Each Other!

No matter what gender your partner is, moving in together is a big step, and it’s going to change your relationship. You’ll find you each have many little things that bug each other, and you’ll have to work through that. But if you love each other, you’ll find a way to settle into your new house and begin transforming it into your home.